Ways to Manage your Time Wisely

Ways to Manage your Time Wisely

This infographic about ways to manage your time wisely is speaking my mind. I plan out my top tasks the night before, but always start my day with a meditation and the 5-min journal app. I use Focusboosterapp.com to track my time because most people underestimate how long it will take them to complete a task and I am one of them.

My Work Well. Play More! door hanger is the sign to my husband that I'm in deep focus mode. He's respectful and knows not to interrupt me. I time box my social media and batch my tasks. Mondays I work on my presentations and upcoming speaking gigs, Tuesdays are for website edits, Wednesdays are social media, etc. Read on for more great tips!

Is it work-life balance or lagom?

Is it work-life balance or lagom?

Recently I came across a great word in the Swedish language – Lagom.

Lagom means just the right amount, enough, in moderation or in balance.

I don't use the words work-life balance because I think work and play are more like a teeter-totter or see-saw. Some days you are going to be tipped in one direction over the other, with a longer, more stressful work day, and others you might have more fun and play. The problem is when that teeter-totter is tipped too far and too long in one direction. The weight on one end (typically the working end) is so heavy, the play end is always up high, or you are tottering with uneven speed.

When people love their job and feel like some of what they do is play, it might feel balanced. However, we all need to step away to recharge our batteries. To find the lagom in our life.

Where can we start to live lagom?

  1. Food! If lagom means just right, what about stopping before you are full? I used to eat until I felt uncomfortable, but now I do it so rarely, that I feel miserable and I won't let myself eat that much.
  2. Possessions. If lagom means enough or sufficient, can we ask ourselves if yet another thing in our Amazon cart is worth it? Will it make us happier today and a month from now or even a year from now?
  3. Meetings. If lagom means the right amount is best, how about making sure that you are scheduling time for your own genius deep work time. Look at your monthly schedule today and try to remove yourself from 2-3 meetings that no longer give you value (if they are recurring) or that you don't need to attend.

Lagom is an adverb or adjective. However, I am going to start using it as a verb. I am going to lagom my schedule, lagom my Amazon and lagom my podcasts because I am getting too many in my queue.

What can you Lagom?

The Secret Shame of High Performing Professionals

High Performers can produce, no doubt about it. The amount of productivity and results that comes out of a high performer is impressive. Crank it out and getter done. Boo-yah. Drop the mic.

But like most things, there’s more to the story and something always deeper than the surface. The reality is others see our “on stage” not our “back stage”. People simply don’t see the toll that not resting is doing to us physically, mentally, and emotionally. Or at least yet.

This is a guest post by Bryan Paul Buckley.


According to a recent Gallup poll, 40 percent of all American adults are sleep-deprived, clocking significantly less than the recommended minimum seven hours of sleep per night. (Source: The Sleep Revolution by Adrianna Huffington)

My assumption, since this used to be me, is many high performers sleep far less than seven hours, especially of “quality sleep” on a consistent basis and simply don’t stop to rest. It’s a necessary evil.

The reality is many High Performers secret shame is they simply don’t know how to rest.

This is my confession. I’m Bryan Paul Buckley. I’m a high performer, and I don’t know how to rest.

And it’s also the confession of many others. We’re in this together if we’re honest.

We’re good at projecting everything is okay. And who will question us with the result we’re putting up?!

I feel like a high-performance car which looks great on the outside, even impressive on the inside but just don’t open the hood!

I constantly run my RPMs in the red and my gas tank on fumes all the while putting in cheap gas, avoiding maintenance, and God forbid I need a repair which then better be quick and cheap as possible.

Just get me back on the road, man! Can you relate?

HERE ARE FOUR INNER THOUGHTS THAT ACCOMPANY THE SECRET SHAME OF HIGH PERFORMING PROFESSIONALS:

  1. MINIMIZE REST

    High Performers are highly skilled at minimizing anything that slows them down. We say the following comments:

    • Rest is a waste of time
    • I don’t really need as much as everyone else
    • I’ll sleep when I’m dead (even Bon Jovi titled a song by that name!)

      Sadly, it often results in mentally belittling others who do rest. We judge, and when we do, we feel better about ourselves as a result.
      Been there, done that? C’mon, man. I know there are more people out there doing this than me.

  2. AVOID REST AT ALL COSTS

    High Performers have a unique gift of always being busy. Every moment is calculated and used to produce results. Not slow down. And as a result, we’re always on the move.

    We act like we’re allergic to rest or it’s the girl in high school that has a “great personality” your friend says you just have to meet. Uh… no thanks.

    Sadly, we fill our schedule, so rest doesn’t even have a chance. I’ve mastered this one. I can fill my time to push rest out of even the realm of possibility. Who can question me with my results? (can you say masking?)

    And I’ve paid the price for it. The Energizer Bunny who lost his energy only to finally figure out the Energizer Bunny actually uses rechargeable batteries. Who knew?
  3. JUSTIFY REST AS OPTIONAL

    I can tell myself half-truths all day long on why rest is optional for me. Here are some of my go-to statements then the actual full truth:

    • I have too much to do to rest (which ironically is my choice and I could choose to slow down and the world not end)
    • It’s my current season of life and won’t always be this way (but I’ve made it my way of life, not season of life)
    • I’m fine with what little rest I get right now (yeah, because I don’t know what being fully rested actually feels like)

      The irony is no one seeing our “on stage” sees the mind games we play “back stage” nor would they really care. They may even like us better if we’re rested and not so driven all of the time. Imagine that.

  4. FEAR REST

    But the truth is many High Performers are afraid of slowing down. Whoa. Now you just got personal. I’ve come to the point of realizing just how much of my identity has been deeply found in my ability to produce results. And I can’t produce results if I’m resting, right?But that flawed thinking couldn’t be further from the truth. I can rest; I’ve just not wanted to slow down. Why? I mean, at a heart level, why am I not stopping long enough to truly rest?I was afraid of what I would find if I slowed down. Here is my truth serum of why I feared rest:

    • Would I be replaced?
    • Would I still be needed?
    • Would I like what I found when I slowed down and reflected on what was truly important to me?

      Can you relate to any of those or have you not come to a place of such honesty yet? If not, I hope this post has challenged you in this area.

CONCLUSION

I didn’t know how to slow down, unplug, relax, and truly receive the deep benefits of rest.

It simply came down to this simple revelation for me:
I know I need to but don’t know how to rest.

Not knowing how to truly rest is my secret shame and many of those High Performers I’ve met. This is solvable, productivity fans.

But the first step is accepting the secret shame of a high performer is we don’t know how to rest.

Join me on this journey to own up to it and be willing to make the necessary changes to receive the benefits of rest.

Bryan Paul Buckley is an Energy Performance Expert who helps business professionals and business travelers to leave the Exhaustion Cycle and live in the Energy Cycle. Bryan is also a speaker, coach, and the host of the Energy Edge Podcast. He’s a husband of one and father of five and lives with his tribe in the Chicago land area.

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