Waterlogged Dogwoods Adventure Racing Promo Video:
Check out our promotional video for the Waterlogged Dogwoods and the awesome sport of adventure racing! Special huge, giant, enormous thanks to Kevin Rader-Rhodenbaugh of www.kevinrr.com for the original music. To get the full effect, make sure you listen with speakers for the surprise at the end 🙂
Disclaimer: Not all women are the same (I know, surprise!) but for those of us who didn't grow up with big brothers or little boys to play with, we may fall into this category.
Don't say something is easy. If it were easy, we would be doing it. Not everything is intuitive to us. Example: for the first two years I mountain biked, I didn't stand up…ever. I had only had a time trial bike with aero bars and I never stood up in my aero bars so I didn't think to stand up on a mountain bike.
Don't say if we keep doing it, it won't be so hard and then we will learn to like it. I don't think mountain biking is an ‘acquired taste'.
If I grew up with a banana seat bike, chances are I wasn't encouraged or didn't learn to pop a wheelie. Saying ‘just bunny hop' or ‘just lift your front tire' doesn't tell me how to do it nor does it justify a just in front of the statement.
Don't look at us and say ‘are you going to wear that?'
It's not fun to ride ahead of us and leave us behind to figure out which direction you went. If you want us to learn to ride, stay with us.
We are not impressed by your mad skills. Save those for your other rides with your buddies.
Tell us what we do well, not what we should get better at.
Follow our lead…if we aren't talking, we probably don't want you to either.
Give up if we don't like it. We aren't going to love everything you do, but we will appreciate that you want us to.
The points stated above are not all-inclusive and they do not describe every woman. They also do not all describe my husband however there are a few he was guilty of as well. These tend to be the biggest complaints I hear or have witnessed as well as experienced myself with other guys. I'm so happy that my husband got me interested in mountain biking and also that he wanted me to mountain bike. It always makes us both sad when we read a guy's post on a forum about how his significant other wants to learn and he doesn't want her to because she will want to ride with him (seriously? And you are with her….why?). Now, I bike more than my husband and I'm the one asking him to ride with me. Not all these tips may apply to your unique situation, but it might not hurt to skim over these tips the next time you take your gal out for a spin.
Our first century ride together – I got him into road biking
My first time in Asheville on my favorite trail at Bent Creek.
I hate running. This is what my friend said one day at lunch. I asked her why she wanted to do it and she said she needed to lose weight quickly. She is not the first person I have heard say they hate running or fill-in-the-exercise.
I never hate exercising or training. I don't even dislike it. There are things I would prefer to do, such as running or mountain biking over swimming or paddling, but mostly because the first two are more convenient. I would love to hoop more and do some types of functional strength training less but I know what I need to do to improve in my sport. I still like strength training though and never feel the need to put it off.
I think the only way a person will stick with something as a life choice is to pick something they like to do. What does it matter how intense the calorie burn is if you aren't going to stick with it? I also think it is a big mistake to pick a sport or a race just because other people are doing it and you want to fit in or are afraid of being left behind. I may not tell you, but the fact that you enter races, events or attend a class that you really don't like just because someone else does almost seems pathetic to me. Find what YOU like to do. Don't follow the crowd or your friend because it is popular or because you want to ‘keep up' in some way. If you don't know what you like, try different things but don't keep on keeping on just because.
As sports tend to become more popular and appeal to the masses, it actually tends to turn me off. This is a personal choice and I am in no way criticizing people for doing them but it just becomes less attractive to me.
When I started running marathons I didn't know a lot of people who did them. After 13 or 14 and qualifying for Boston, I was happy I met my goal because I didn't want to do them anymore. Too many people were doing them and they kept increasing the time until they became all day events to appeal to the masses. I just did my first ultra this year and will probably go this route from now on.
My name in granite at the Boston Marathon
I started doing triathlons in 2003 and now that they are uber-popular, I don't really care about doing them, unless it is an off-road.
Morning of Ironman
I love mountain biking because it is still easy to get into most races, it still has a grass-roots feeling and the community is smaller. Sometimes too small, as I have raced against myself for competition. For the most part, I don't do anything on the road anymore.
Mountain biking local trails with my Besty
My last real road ride w/ my friend Beth – 24 hours of Booty, which I did on my Single Speed.
Adventure racing is unique enough that I still have to tell people what it even consists of. There aren't a lot of females (c'mon, it's fun!!!) and I am always concerned with holding my own and adding value to any team I am on.
Hoopdancing is definitely not mainstream and there is a 50/50 chance that if I tell someone I do it that they will laugh and say ‘hula hoop?' (Hula is a brand, thank you very much). If I was trying to be cool and popular I would certainly pick where I whipped out a hoop but I don't really care about that type of stuff. I don't have any friends that I hoop with and I didn't know anyone that hooped when I started doing it. My husband has a couple of hoops (I have three) and people always joke first about him hooping until he tells them that those two big hoops on the wall are his 🙂
Speaking of my husband, he doesn't really hoop anymore but in the last couple of months has become completely addicted to disc golf. He plays almost daily and has even sported his first disc golf injury. Yes, they exist. Is disc golf a popular sport? Not really. Is it even considered a sport? Depends on who you ask….but he loves doing it and it is great exercise walking around the course.
Don't continue doing something just because you have always done it. When you have reached the point of boredom or where it feels like it is work then it is time to switch. Everything I have done has been exciting for me. When I reach a certain point, and only I know what that point is, I know I need to move on and find something new. I have some ideas about what my next sports might be, but I'm not ready to switch out anything yet.
Find your thing. Whatever it is. Don't do it to be popular. Don't do it to look cool and certainly don't do it just to burn calories. Pick something fun and challenging. Maybe it's a martial art, orienteering, inline-skating, kettlebells, hooping, clogging….you get my point. But respect yourself enough to do what you love. Or at least like a little bit 🙂
The other day my husband and I went to the Rose Garden in town. It was the first time we had been there and had a nice picnic. We took some funny pictures of us smelling the roses and it made me think about the saying ‘take time to stop and smell the roses'.
I'm one of those people who doesn't really stop to smell the roses, but rather smells them as I am walking, running or riding by. I will choose a trail over pavement any day but I am not the type of person to stop and look at a flower or poke a turtle with a stick. One thing about mountain biking is that you are not really able to enjoy the view so much while you are riding. If I looked out over a mountain, that is the direction that I would go and what is the point if I am dead or hospitalized!
For me, the biggest part about being on a trail is being away from traffic and other people. When I lived in Washington, DC it was par for the course for trails to be busy but here I can run for over an hour and sometimes only see 1-2 people. I can ride in a local park by myself and not see anyone else for an hour or more if I go at the right time.
My husband is more of a stop to smell the roses kind of guy. This helps to balance us out. If it weren't for me, we may never reach our destination or finish what we had started. If it weren't for him, I may not notice the spectacular view from Looking Glass Rock. When I told someone that my friend Kobza and I hiked rim to rim across the Grand Canyon in 11 hours their response was did you even enjoy it? Of course I did, but for someone else, they may not have. Kobza and I are very much alike and for us, it is more about the feeling of accomplishment. In addition, seeing canyon walls for that long starts to just look like canyon walls.
K hiding in the roses
I think my attitude towards always moving forward comes from the way I was brought up too. I don't remember ever being focused on enjoying what we were doing at that particular time or looking at a view of something but more focused on the end result. If we were going on an 8-mile hike, we were focused on the end of that 8-mile hike. Not to get it over with necessarily but because that was the finish. Other family members may have felt like it was a different experience but that is how I remember it.
My husband refers to it as ‘on a mission'. He says my family is always on a mission and to me, his family his painfully slow. So slow in fact that one time I went out with them sightseeing and my back hurt from walking so slow! Probably a good balance is what we end up doing when it is just the two of us.
I've learned to slow my pace a bit and I've also learned to look at the scenery, which is much easier to do now that I am adventure racing. Sometimes there is a lot of standing involved when looking at maps, changing out gear etc. Plus, my teammate Bob is all about taking pictures which is a great reminder to me to actually look at what my surroundings are for their beauty (or unbeauty because you wouldn't believe how much trash is in the wilderness!).
All in all, I like how I am. I like that I am always moving forward and looking ahead. I don't want to ever stay stagnant for too long, physically or mentally. I want to get to the finish not to get it over with, but to feel the sense of accomplishment I get before immediately moving on to the next thing. Besides, I really don't even like the smell of roses.
The kitchen pass or domestic pass is a name that some of the people I race with call permission from their significant others to race or train. Today I rode my bike for five hours which is something I do often in the summer. Last year I raced 17 times and this year, while I'll be racing less total number of races, I will be racing at least three 24+ hour races, at least two 12 hour races, and several other shorter ones with most of the races being overnight or weekend excursions. In addition, I took off for a week to the Grand Canyon to do my epic hike with my friend Kobza.
I have never once had to ask for a pass and I am so thankful for that when I hear people discussing it. When I first heard the term last year I laughed, then was confused and then felt relieved and grateful. My husband is not a racer. He is a recreational cyclist who is now addicted to disc golf. I don't really have interest in this sport but sometimes I'll go with him and hoop along the course or I'll just walk with him and throw a few here and there. We have done a couple of century road rides together and have done mountain bike trips for the last several years.
My husband was the person who got me interested in mountain biking. He taught me how to ride and then was patient while I was learning. Slowly, I got faster and then I got better. We don't ride as much together lately, but nonetheless, he is supportive and WANTS me to be a better rider. He can't understand when he hears other guys talk about not wanting their girlfriend/spouse to learn to ride because they don't want them interfering with their guy time or because maybe they are afraid they will get better than them?
While writing this I paused for a while trying to think of a time when I was asked not to go for a bike ride, run or race over a weekend. My husband knows that this is what I am passionate about. My husband has stayed up all night long volunteering for a race without even being fed by the race director. He has been promised at a volunteer gig that he will get to ride singletrack and then never been given the time. He has driven over a 100 miles up and down narrow, winding dirt roads in a single day just to hear another volunteer say he didn't need him. He has stood outside on pavement all day directing riders and has slept in a cold and a hot tent all night to make sure that I am at the race start on time.
I have only raced with men and have mostly trained with men (if I train with anyone at all) and I can only think of one instance that my husband ever said anything and even that was pretty mild. My team consists of men and I have even spent the night with three men in a hotel room on the eve of a race (a few women think this is shocking but I still don't know why) and my husband doesn't care. He is realistic and knows that there is nothing attractive about sweaty smelly adventure racers that have been using the woods as a bathroom for the last 24 hours.
This year I had wanted to do a week-long expedition race in Idaho but only knew of one other racer who was interested and willing. My habit is expensive but my husband has never mentioned money a single time in 18 years when it comes to what I spend on training and racing. Some of that may be because he is a musician and I could probably race for the rest of my life and not spend what we have spent on equipment, studio space, recording equipment and the like. But honestly, I think it wouldn't matter.
I know some of you out there with kids are thinking it is because we are childfree that we are able to live our lives this way but I truly think that even if we had more than a cat, my husband would still figure out a way to emotionally and physically support me. It is what keeps me sane, makes me excited, provides my moving meditation and keeps me healthy. If I can't do what I love, how can I love who I'm with?
Thank you Kevin, for never making me ask permission, provide an excuse or give me a guilt trip.
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