Do you have an A-Team?

Do you have an A-Team?

Think about the ten people you are around the most.  Are they supportive? Inspiring? Have characteristics or traits you aspire to?

Or are they vampires sucking your energy or don't encourage you to grow as an individual?

Your friends, family, co-workers or workout buddies could be in a different place than you resulting in pulling you to to do more and be more (yea!) or blocking your path and holding your head under water. With work, you may be career-oriented right now while someone else is focusing on their family. You may be ready to race a marathon while your running partner can’t fathom anything more than a 10k. You want to cut off all internet and email after 7pm, but your wife wants to spend an hour on Facebook or Reddit. Rarely are you going to go through your life with the people around you moving at the same pace.

I have participated in several types of sports and have trained with several people over the years. Some I have become good friends with, others were training buddies. As people progressed, regressed, changed sports, changed jobs or changed locations, I changed who I trained with. I never let a friend/training partner's choice dictate what I was doing or hold me back in any way. If I needed to move on or find someone else, I did.

The people I gravitated toward, and still do, are considered my ‘A-Team‘. In the A-Team, one of my favorite shows from the 80s, each member had their specialty and was respected for what they did best. I like to surround myself with people who also have a specialty, preferably one that I don’t, so that I can learn from them. I didn’t know how to paddle a few years ago so of course, I wanted a teammate that was a strong paddler. Not so that they can take more of the load, but so that I could learn from them. When I tried to learn to navigate, so I looked for someone who had a natural teaching style and patience to sit down with me.

Who is on your A-Team? Do you surround yourself with people you can learn from? Who is better than you at whatever aspect of your life you are trying to improve on,, finance, public speaking, health?

Or do you like to be the best and surround yourself with the B-Team?

If you are always hanging out with benchwarmers to make yourself feel better, you're probably going to get stuck at the level of fabulous that you are right now until you are no longer fabulous.

I used to keep my toxic relationships a lot longer than I needed to and one thing about getting older is I realize I don’t have to. If a friendship is exhausting it’s not a friendship; it is a chore. If a work colleague is poison than trying to minimize time with them may be the only thing you can do. If it’s a family member…well, that might be a visit to a mental health counselor to prepare and to debrief! One of my goals at every race was for people to want to race with me again. Not because I am kick-ass physically, but because I am supportive, mature, and willing to make sacrifices for the team. If I am fun, charming or the best at a discipline then that is even better. It was always the same when I was a part of a team at work.

I have an A-Team for different things: Business, Racing, Finance, Relationships, Personal Growth, etc. I have a lot of people that support me, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they get me. Some people may not even realize that I am looking at them to make myself a better person. They are on my A-Team because they inspire me organically, not because it’s something they are even trying to do.

I hope you have an A-Team. Life is too short to sit around on the bench.


Sleep Health Infographic

Sleep Health Infographic

When I am stressed it shows in my sleep health.  Lavender oil, prescription meds, warm baths, food concoctions, no digital for two hours….I have tried it all. I go to sleep easy and then wake up and can't shut off my brain. Sometimes I am awake for hours. Studies show that people who work the night shift tend to have more body fat than people who work regular hours. The ‘Driving on Fumes' part speaks to adventure racers who go much longer than that without sleep. In a 24 hour race you are easily awake for 30+ hours. I have always said the most dangerous part of a 24+ hour race is the drive home. No matter how jacked up you are on caffeine you are still driving like you are drunk. I usually don't stay for awards or prizes because I want to hit the road while I still have adrenalin to drive me. About two hours post I hit the danger zone. What's the longest you have gone with no sleep? I think mine was 42 hours. zzzzzzzz…….

Check out this Sleep Health Infographic

Lack of Sleep Infographic

Waterlogged Dogwoods Adventure Racing Promo Video

Waterlogged Dogwoods Adventure Racing Promo Video

Waterlogged Dogwoods Adventure Racing Promo Video:

Check out our promotional video for the Waterlogged Dogwoods and the awesome sport of adventure racing! Special huge, giant, enormous thanks to Kevin Rader-Rhodenbaugh of for the original music. To get the full effect, make sure you listen with speakers for the surprise at the end 🙂

Minuteman Adventure Race Report

Minuteman Adventure Race Report

David's comments are initialed and bolded

On 9/11 the NC National Guard hosted a 5k, 10k and a 4hr sprint adventure race. Race Director was Major Bob May, our Waterlogged Dogwoods team captain. David Parsons-Foresi and I raced as team Rainbow-Bubbleship. We were excited to race locally where we could ride to the start and also to practice navigating for the first time prior to Storm the Eastern Shore 30 hr AR coming up in a couple of weeks.

The race started with a ride down to Umstead from the Guard building on Reedy Creek Road. We chose to bike first to make sure we were closer to the finish as the time slipped away. I chose to ride my single speed as it is faster on flats and uphills. The bike navigation was fairly easy for an AR but we didn't always choose the best attack points. We could tell because Brent Eishen and his daughter Zoe (who did great at her first AR!!) were behind us in speed but always seemed to get to the CP first. It was great to race in our back yard and bird-dog with Brent and Zoe, watching how they attacked a point vs. what we did gave instant feedback and made for a great learning experience. Lots of mental ohhs and ahhs. Most importantly Brent agreed that sausage pizza for breakfast is ideal race food. dbpf

At the Orienteering course in Schenk Forest we climbed the rock wall first. It was my first time ever climbing a rock wall and surprisingly I wasn't nervous at all and made it up pretty fast. Marcey rocked out the rock wall. dbpf I guess my fear of heights/falling is going away! First the ropes course, then a rappel at Linville Gorge and now the rock wall! We took off trekking and ran about 75% of it. I surprised myself with some correct nav strategy and even opted to bushwhack and it turned out to be the right move. We spent too much time on CP8 and found out later we were pretty much right on it but due to time, we decided to give up. Yes, too much time looking for CP8 – it's strange how time moves: real fast, then too slow. I think the hardest thing for us this race was deciding to bag CP 8 and start making our way back. I think it frustrated us both. dbpf We only had time for one more CP before we had to head back.

We had two special challenges: 1) write down the year of the first National Guard Militia in the US. I must point out that had I listened to David we would have missed this (1776) but I consulted Wikipedia on my iPhone (perfectly legal) and it was 1636 in Massachusetts. I would have bet money on 1776, I was thinking of Paul Revere and the Beastie Boys. Good on Marcey to check it out and confirm. dbpf 2) rebuild a lego structure that we saw at the rock wall. I screwed this up because I cannot draw 3 dimensionally (or even 2 dimensionally) and tried to channel my friend Angie Hedman but she wasn't listening. My drawing was not accurate so we missed that point. My bad.

In the end, we ended up winning by ten points. There was a 9/11 ceremony prior to the awards to honor those who lost their lives on that day and the days since. Major May did an outstanding job as RD, as always, with a great course and correct CP placement. There were several volunteers who helped out and the race couldn't have gone as smoothly without them. Thank you!! One can never say thank you enough to our service members! dbpf

Minuteman Adventure Race

Lessons learned: consider attack points, cap the time spent looking for a CP, do not rely on the Beastie Boys for historical information. And bring the iphone dbpf

Next up – Storm the Eastern Shore 30hr AR in Cape Charles, VA which will be a very difficult to navigate race with 15-25 miles of trekking, 60-80 miles of mountain biking and 25-35 miles of paddling. This will be a great race!!!!!!!! dbpf


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