What Do You Need to Give Up to Get Better?

What Do You Need to Give Up to Get Better?

On June 1 I launched a new keynote, What’s Your Joe Joe®? I’m a professional speaker whose topics are on productivity and health with titles of Email Extinguisher, Conquer the Calendar, Task Mastery, and Energy Escalators. Easy-peasy for me, but not this one. This new keynote was personal and about triggering three autoimmune diseases in my thirties living a high-stress, high-intensity lifestyle. And did I mention I put myself in menopause at 36?

Yep, sure did. And most people would have thought I was the healthiest person in the room. I was competing in long-distance triathlon, ultra-running, ultra-mountain biking, and adventure racing. I traveled up to 45 weeks a year. I was climbing that corporate ladder like a boss.

I was Superwoman.

Until I wasn’t.

I spent 3-4 years trying to get diagnosed appropriately. I didn’t look like a sick person, so I wasn’t really looked at seriously. I also had a facade to manage. That facade was so strong, not even my closest friends knew I was suffering. I didn’t even tell my husband everything because deep down, I knew my lifestyle wasn’t healthy, but I was getting satisfaction from it in other ways.

I was burned out and bored at work and those long hours of training made tasks doable. Traveling so much gave me a lot of private time to sit with mild bouts of depression.

When I get a promotion, then I’ll slow down.
When I get a raise, I’ll hire someone to help me with personal tasks.
When I do an Ironman, I’ll feel like it’s enough.
When I do an off-road Ironman, I’ll feel like it’s enough.
When I move to a smaller house, I’ll spend more time with my husband because I’ll have less to manage.

I lived by someday, but it never came. I hit the goal and immediately made another one that was harder to reach.

Writing this 7-minute keynote took four months and I’m still tweaking and refining. I felt scared for people to see the real me. To know that I had felt like a fraud and wasn’t who they thought I was (or who I thought they thought I was). I believed I was emotionally over all these diagnoses and was living my new routine. Instead, I was just playing the role of a different type of Superwoman and realized that I was still grieving the old me.

What I gave up.

I had to give up a lot to get better. I had to completely change my diet, which made me feel high-maintenance and a pain-in-the-ass to my friends and family. I retired from racing and lost an entire group of friends. These things felt impossible at the time, but I found support in unexpected places, made new friends, found new activities, and created firm boundaries for myself.

Have you ever given up alcohol and stopped getting invitations?
Have you turned down a promotion or job because of family obligations and felt resentful or like you missed your one chance?
Have you missed out on parties or social events because you have anxiety?

We all have something that we’ve been told to give up to get better, but it’s seemed so challenging or alienating, we don’t do it, or we only do it halfway. We’re afraid we’ll lose our facade, our friends, or jobs once we make the change.

Superman and Superwoman are fictional characters. You can climb the ladder or build a business without sacrificing your health. You can be a woman or man who’s super, without being a superhero.

And those Joe-Joe's?

My husband Kevin is a drum teacher and casually told a student the story of the Joe-Joe's and why I stopped eating them. This woman, who I have NEVER met, figured out how to make gluten-free Joe Joe's, made them, packaged them and called them Ro-Ro's. Cue Ugly Cry big time. I have only had two people Alicia Marker (hoop cookies) and Lisa Veronica Wood (birthday donuts) go to such trouble to continue a tradition for me, but this woman does not even know me. What a beautiful, special soul she has. The only gifts I bought this year were for my 25 in 25@ challenge because this is what the holidays are about for me. Nothing I will receive will be as special as this.

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What do you need to give up to get better?
What’s Your Joe Joe®?

Pausing and starting life after a diagnosis.

Pausing and starting life after a diagnosis.

When you were diagnosed with your autoimmune, stress-related illness or chronic disease, did you say Why Me?

Did you put your life on pause to reflect and figure out how to fight or manage it or did you stick your head in the sand so deep that you may as well not even be diagnosed at all?
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Hashimoto’s Disease is my bad-ass gift and I control it.

Hashimoto’s Disease is my bad-ass gift and I control it.

Updated on 24/June 2020. At the age of 39, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's Disease, early-onset menopause (from the age of 36), nervous system fatigue, autoimmune Raynaud's Disease, pernicious anemia, osteopenia, and gluten-intolerance.

Woot! Woot!

What a way to start my first year in business! I had next-to-nothing insurance, turned 40, and had what I thought would be more time to race and train.

You can read about my diagnosis here and here, so I won't go into it in detail. My posts on Hashimoto's Disease have been my most shared posts. After my article about it being a gift, I received emails and calls from numerous people who said: “that's me.”

I honestly see it as a gift. I wouldn't trade it for a yard with real grass, meeting Oprah or Jubala almond lattes' for a lifetime.

I went through 40+ hours of training through every course I could find. I read more than ten books and already held health coaching certifications. I wanted to share what I learned with my clients and help them to prevent relapses or manage their illness effectively.

My Top Three ways I control my Hashimoto's Disease are:

  1. I take Naturethroid, which works well for me. It's important not to take any thyroid medications near doses of magnesium (this means your multivitamin too) and calcium and take it in the morning on an empty stomach. I had four doctors before this was explained to me and I've had two clients not know either was important.
  2. I take my heart rate variability using the Oura ring. This measures the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system activity and predicts when my body is stressed before I realize it.
  3. I prioritize sleep over everything. Even if it's 8:30, if I'm tired, I'll go to bed. There is no shame in my sleep game.

Melissa's story:

One of my rock star clients, Melissa Kennedy, co-founder of Everleigh Body, got her gift while we were working together. After battling fatigue and general malaise for months, she was diagnosed with Hashimoto's Disease. What are her Top Three to control her health?

As an intrapreneur turned entrepreneur my passion, ambition, and drive are my biggest assets, but they are also my biggest barriers to a healthy, sustainable lifestyle. Add in the complications of an autoimmune thyroid disease requiring more rest and an eating lifestyle change, and you get a life of extremes…a pendulum swing of blowout productivity vs. physical and emotional burnout. Then rolls in Marcey…

Marcey's Three Big Wins to Balance my Extreme Lifestyle:

  1. Creating an absolute “No” list of canned responses ready when approached to do something that wasn't serving my interest. I didn't have to think about it. The decision and emotional guilt were taken away.
  2. Developing a work transition routine to help me stop working and start living every day. These 15-minute activities to transition from work to life were a real game changer. I started shutting down at 6pm to cook a healthy dinner, walk my dog, or garden on lovely spring days. Later I realized I didn't miss anything by shutting down at a reasonable time and gained so much in return.
  3. Asking where my fun was? One time, Marcey asked me what was good and fun today? I paused and listed a litany of work accomplishments. She replied, “That's awesome, now what have you done for fun?” I didn't have an answer. I immediately realized I had lost my fun. Marcey put me back on track.

You may think I'm pushing it with thinking that Hashimoto's can be a gift, but if nothing else, it is a learning experience about extreme lifestyles. It's also a way to look inward and reset. What can we learn from this to help make our lives better and my outcome healthier?

No health issues? Lucky you! Do you know a friend or colleague that might benefit from this article? Please share it with them. They may need motivation and help to see things differently.

To learn more, watch the recording of my webinar on how to Work Well and Play More with Hashimoto's Disease!.

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Hashimoto’s Autoimmune Disease. Part Two.

Hashimoto’s Autoimmune Disease. Part Two.

Part Two of my Hashimoto's autoimmune disease confession on how I'm coping, my rock-star husband (literally and figuratively), and why Moab has to wait. The name Hashimoto's Disease sounds badass, but it's not.

AI saw two conventional endocrinologists who prescribed medication but didn't really care about lifestyle changes. I knew I had to find a functional medicine provider that could also prescribe me medicine and help deal with my other issues. I wanted to be looked at as a whole person, not just as separate organs. Dr. Loan Huynh was incredible and got me on the right path with a complete reset diet.

In early June, I went to the Duke Center for Integrative Medicine to find the best of both worlds. A conventional doctor with extra training in Integrative Medicine, who actually believed that a gluten-free, soy-free diet matters. She understood that lifestyle changes are crucial and that I could help myself beyond just taking a pill for the rest of my life.

A pill. Every. Single. Day. Ugh.

She performed a more updated cortisol test than the conventional endocrinologist because she understood that my adrenal glands played a massive part in Hashimoto's health and progression. She knew that menopause at 36 (I'm now 39) wasn't as simple as taking Estrogen Replacement Therapy. It would deplete the body of selenium (significant for thyroid patients) and cause me to need more thyroid medication.

Menopause at 36 was something I brought up to a conventional endo, and they dismissed it without any further question. However, they said I should go on an estrogen-only patch. Later, when I found an integrative OB/GYN, I learned that this was absolutely not the way to go and it needed to be a combination. So confusing.

Leaky what?

She also said the first thing I needed to address was my gut. Eighty percent of the immune system is in your gut. Leaky Gut, or Intestinal Permeability, is basically where the intestinal barrier becomes permeable and large protein molecules escape into the bloodstream. When this happens, the body has an immune response and attacks them and can play a significant role in autoimmune diseases like Hashimoto's and Type 1 diabetes. Tell someone you have Leaky Gut, and you'll get some crack jokes or blank stares.

I bought The Thyroid Sessions and The Thyroid Summit and spent over 40 hours watching and listening to webinars. I read two books on the adrenal glands and four more on the thyroid.

I paid for a consult with an exercise physiologist, Ben Greenfield, who coached professional athletes and was an expert on the Thyroid Sessions. I can't look at myself objectively and needed to know if my serious attitude to racing had to now be casual if I could even do it at all.

Ben put me in the Marcey-equivalent to hell. Because I had nervous system fatigue, I had to quit exercising for four weeks except for light yoga 3 times a week and easy walking 20 minutes or so a day. Anyone that knows me understands that I would rather be greeted every morning with thumbscrews than have to do light workouts. Then I was on a specific ramp-up program that started out with McGuff training. Four weeks later, I added short high-intensity interval training (HIIT), then more extended HIIT training. In October, I ran and biked again at an aerobic pace and participated in the Uwharrie Trail Race in February.

I basically lost my summer. We had to change our vacation plans to celebrate my 40th birthday, which was supposed to be hiking and mountain biking in Moab to going to San Francisco instead. I could hike and exercise, but not at the level I would want to for Moab.

In the meantime, I took my heart rate variability with the Sweetbeat app and a Vital Connect every morning and again throughout the day. I exercised more with a shattered clavicle, then I could while my body was healing.

The way I train myself now is very different than the way I trained before. If you were a client more than three months ago, I would train you in a very different way. I've learned enough to change my mind and what is now coming out as ‘new,' i.e., heart rate variability, has decades of research already behind it.

I'm now on a gluten-free diet…forever. If there is one thing that drives me UP THE WALL, it's that the only autoimmune disease that ever gets noted for gluten is Celiac. It's even hard to find a conventional dietician that understands the gluten-Hashimoto's or Hashimoto's-Celiac connection. I cringe every time I read a bit in a magazine that gluten only affects Celiac sufferers. There is so much research on the indigestibility of gluten. More and more research is coming out on gluten and other autoimmune diseases. Yet, the news prefers to just pick up the sound bites that sound the most interesting at that second. As I said, Hashimoto's sounds badass, but it's not, so evidently not newsworthy.

There is no such thing as ‘less-gluten.' It is like being a little bit pregnant. You are either gluten-free or you aren't. Going to restaurants wasn't really fun anymore. I didn't like having to tell the waiter my medical history and then wonder if they'll remember. I didn't like knowing that people were working at Mellow Mushroom, who say ‘fuck you' to people who order gluten-free. I can't trust that they aren't keeping my food separate, or worse, topping my pizza with the dustpan's remnants. (update 2017 – I find eating gluten-free easy now – progress!)

I felt like a pain in the ass for my friends. Still, thankfully 99% of them have been completely cool with it and have gone out of their way to accommodate me (without my asking) without making it a big deal at the same time. I even had a friend who had invited me for dinner tell me to eat before I came. It hurt my feelings and made me feel like an even bigger nuisance than I already did. Thankfully, that only happened once. I prefer not to call attention to it unless I have to. With no complaint, my husband has gone gluten-free in the house to help me and didn't even argue that we had to cancel a weekend away and our Moab vacation. He was AWESOME.

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I went from eating mostly vegetarian, except for the occasional fish, to eating meat because being a gluten-free, soy-free vegetarian that can only eat small amounts of beans or lentils is almost impossible. My nutrition choices were part of my identity, and I went through a period where I was actually embarrassed to say I ate meat. Now, I have to worry about hormone and antibiotic-free, grass-fed or conventional, so my restaurant choices are still pretty limited. Thankfully, I think I cook as well as most restaurants, so it's really when I'm out, traveling, or a guest that it is difficult.

If anyone can deal with this..

When I was first diagnosed, I had a lot of people tell me, “if anyone can deal with this, you can.” I know they were saying it with kindness, but it took away the pain I was in. It made me feel like I was so strong, I didn't need anyone's support. I heard “it's a widespread autoimmune disease” several times like that's supposed to lessen the severity. Diabetes is common, but it doesn't mean you don't take it seriously.

I could get on a soapbox about this topic, but I'll spare you the details. Also, “I'm hypothyroid too” when the person didn't understand the difference. Hypothyroid is a condition. Hashimoto's is a disease. Autoimmunity is different. They both suck but in different ways. Hashimoto's is a polyendocrine autoimmune pattern, which means it's not uncommon to later get Celiac, pernicious anemia, or late-onset Type 1 Diabetes.

When I was diagnosed, I thought my race career would be over. I thought my business career would be over. Who wants to hire a coach to help them with their health who has a disease? Then I mentioned it a couple of times in my posts because it is what it is and I can only fight it like I do everything else. Researching, consulting and changing my lifestyle.

I took on a client with Hashimoto's, Addison's, and was in early menopause. I realized during our consult that I could help her. I spent 40+ hours and many doctor appointments learning what I needed to learn not just to help myself but also to help other people with Hashimoto's.

Not everyone understands how it feels day to day, how it affects your brain space, and how scary it is to know that now you are at risk for other things. I've enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and in June 2015 became a board-certified Integrative Nutritionist. This will completed my trifecta of certifications – Fitness, Nutrition, and Productivity.

Sorry this post was so long. I needed to say it. It's cheaper than therapy 🙂

If you have Hashimoto's Autoimmune Disease or another health condition you want to improve with private coaching, complete an application today, and see if we are a good fit for each other. I'd love to help you on your journey to improved health.

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